When I first saw this movie, the relationship between mom Lindo and daughter Waberly strongly touched me. Especially when they argued about whether to play chess or not and the mom eventually acted unusually calm, which made the daughter rethink about her wrong behaviors. Therefore, I really feel it, because my mom used to use this way to deal with me when having quarrel. And her behaviors really made me uncomfortable and even I couldn't use words to describe this strange feeling.
However, the biggest commonality between them is they love their daughter very much from the bottom of the heart. Of course I know my mom loves me ,values me and cares for me all the time, consequently, I can grow up happily and healthily with her matchless love and protect.
In my parent-child relationship, there exactly exists something similar with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. As we grow up in quite different generations, it is inevitable that we have different opinions. Our parents always believe that they are wiser and more experienced than us because of their ages. As a result, they will sometimes impose their ideas on us and try to change our decisions and even our future. But actually, as we all know, they just intend to help us avoid some mistakes and hope that we can live a more successful life.
Initially, I can't deny the movie itself catch my attention at the first time I watched it because of the different stories that happened among a group of women. I was atteacted by the attractive narration. Horever, It's an interesting thing that I didn't find much in common when I compared my parent-child relationship with the relationships in the film. I believe the most important reason is that both my parents are not traditional Chinese parents. Their ways of education is also not very traditonal. They treat me as a friend and aren't very strict with me. Everytime when I meet difficulties or anecdotes, I will share my feelings and perspectives with them, so there is no reason for us to create conflicts.
Although there might be incomprehension sometimes, we never quarrel with each other. Since I know they simply want me to live a better life, I won't find any excuse to be angry. I know it's normal to have contradictions with parents for most children, not only for Chinese family, but it's still a little bit dramatic to imagine what will happen if I fight against with my mom and dad who try to consider everything about me just as the four daughters in the film did. I don't want to be regretful like June, so I keep telling myself to learn to cherish everything including my parent-child relationship.
In my parent-child relationship, there are some similarities with those in the movie Joy Luck Club, my parents chose what they thought was the right path for me from an early age, such as which class I went to in junior high school, which school I went to in senior high school, and my choice for college entrance examination. They thought the choices they were making for me would lead to a bright and secure future but I didn't like it
Speak frankly, in my parent-child relationship, I hardly find anything in common with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. What my parents except of me is being a civilized and happy person. They never compare me to anyone else or belittle me by praising other children. They don’t care whether I get good grades or not. They just hope I don’t regret it in the future. They are willing to listen to my opinion and help me as long as my demands are reasonable and acceptable. They are willing to give me their advice when I can’t solve the problem but never force me to do things, too.
As I watched June being forced to play the piano by his mother, I recalled my childhood. My mother was also very mighty, and she imposed a high-pressure education on her three children. On average, each of us has attended seven interest classes, but none of them are out of our own interest. It made us both uncomfortable, but I didn't have June's courage to stand up to her. I knew that if I obeyed my mother's wishes, she would not explode and peace would return to the family. Over and over again, I chose to conform, to meet my mother's expectations, to meet the expectations of everyone around me. I feel so tired every day.
Fortunately, my younger sister woke up to her self-awareness and guided me step by step, and I began to have the courage to deny my mother. Now my mother also realizes the mistakes of the way and philosophy of education in those days and is willing to respect our ideas.
When I was a child, my parents used to be like those in the movie the Joy Luck Clubb. They once hoped that I could learn another musical talent, such as piano, and get the corresponding certificate after passing the piano level examination. But this put a lot of pressure on me at that time. I once hated the piano class every week. Fortunately, my parents are more enlightened. After I communicated with them, they respected my choice and agreed that I regard the piano as a hobby.
My parent-child relationship does have a lot in common with the parent-child relationship in the joy Luck club . Waverly, for example, wins a chess match, and Lindo holds a magazine and shows it off. My parents are the same. Although they don't show off so much, they do show off to their friends. It's just that as a kid I thought it was OK. What's more, my mother is very similar to Winsu yuan. She is kind and willing to contribute to her children's future. She forced her child to play because she had high expectations for her child, for her child's future. My parents are the same, they forced me to study when I was young, in order to make me have a better future.
In my parent-child relationship, I do find something in common with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. Just as Auntie Lindo, my parents always like to make carping comments on me and disapprove of what I have done. They tend to deny my preferences and often throw a wet blanket on me. This makes me feel very disappointed. However, I know tat they may just seldom appreciating and approving others. In their heart, they still regard me as an excellent girl who has great ability and ideas.
All four mothers had traumatic experiences at young age,and after immigrating to the US, their educational philosophies rubbed off on their American-raised daughters. The eight woman all experienced some pain under the background of contradiction of times, culture and family. The movie made me deeply feel the influence of the family of origin on the growth of children.
Similarities autally exist between my parent-child relationship and that in movie.
First of all, my parents used to force me learn what I feel dull and unattractive. They would not give me oppotunities to decide espeically in terms of cram school. Additionally, my parents also dealt with me with coldness and scoldness when we were in a fright. Everytime I would apologize and they would punish me not to watch TV, paly games, etc.So I think it just is common trait of Chinses parents to controll their child by dignity and order.
Yes. Most Chinese families like to impose their own ideas on their children. My mom would force me to do things I didn't want to do, or show me off in front of my relatives, and I would feel uncomfortable. But I fought back every time, and our relationship blossomed in arguments.
There are a lot of things in my parent-child relationship that are similar to the Joy Luck Club. For example, when I was young, my parents were critical of my scores. They seldom praise me for achieving high scores. When I did something wrong , my mother would scold me for not working hard or smart enough.
The "cold violence" from the mother is taking advantage of the daughter's dependence on her to force the daughter to submit, which is not how a mature parent should behave. "Cold violence" transformed family members' conflicts from low-level physical torture to escalating mental abuse; the conflict of force was transformed into a confrontation of intelligence and endurance.
In fact, my parents and I really spend very little time together, because my parents went to work in other places when I was about eight years old. After that, except for a few summer and winter holidays and The Spring Festival, we were apart. I was brought up by my grandparents. But in the few memories I have, I can also find parallels with the family relationships at the Joy Luck Club in my relationship with my parents, especially with Wu Suyun and Wu Jingmei.
My mother, like Wu Suyun, places her own expectations on me. My sister's grades are not very good, then my mother often scolds her for her poor grades. I got good grades all my life and didn't get much scolding, but I could feel my mother's obvious and intense frustration and dissatisfaction when I went against her expectations. She hoped that I could study in a good university. In my senior year of high school, she stressed many times that I must be admitted to a good university, otherwise she won't afford me to study in a university. I knew it wasn't meant to inspire me, it was just that she really felt that way. I often felt like I wouldn't be loved if I wasn't good enough and didn't meet their expectations.
In fact, my parents and I really spend very little time together, because my parents went to work in other places when I was about eight years old. After that, except for a few summer and winter holidays and The Spring Festival, we were apart. I was brought up by my grandparents. But in the few memories I have, I can also find parallels with the family relationships at the Joy Luck Club in my relationship with my parents, especially with Wu Suyun and Wu Jingmei.
My mother, like Wu Suyun, places her own expectations on her children. My sister's grades are not very good, but she works hard, but my mother often scolds her for her poor grades. I got good grades all my life and didn't get much scolding, but I could feel my mother's obvious and intense frustration and dissatisfaction when I went against her expectations. She hoped that I could study in a good university. In my senior year of high school, she stressed many times that I must be admitted to a good university, otherwise I would not be able to study in a university. I knew it wasn't meant to inspire me, it was just that she really felt that way. I often felt like I wouldn't be loved if I wasn't good enough and didn't meet their expectations.
I think they are similar. In the movie, two generations are conflicted because they live in different times, and so is my family. My parents sometimes think that the ways of dealing with people in their day still apply today.
After watching the moive, Lindo and Waverly’s story struck a chord with me. Lindo has an innate toughness, bravery and intelligence. She insists on being herself and she’s just like a strong wind, with the power to determine her own life. Actually, my mum is also a tough-minded and brave woman like Lindo in the moive. When I was very young, my mum also hoped me to be a versatile child and she sent me to learn a lot of things such as painting, playing the piano, Chinese dancing or playing chess like Waverly. But I was too young to understand why I have to learn these so none of these work out. And when Waverly shout to her mum that she would not play chess any more and Lindo resonded with silence. This scene really touched me because my mum also used the same way to teach me when I do something wrong. She seldom tells me what I should do or not do in words, but let me to self-reflect and understand the truth of life from my own growing experience .My mum is a firm supporter of the saying"action speaks louder than words", and it applies to educating her daughter as well. Gradually, I can make a clear distinction between right and wrong, I know I need to be a kind, diligent, tolerant and warm person even though my mom never teaches me about these in words. My mum has the good qualities like Lindo, but she educates me better than Lindo. It’s my mum who makes me an inner-directed, conscientious and fearless person. Thanks for my mum and I’ll cherish the swam feather she gave me and try to pass down to my daughter.
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