传统的中国式父母与子女的关系总会有望子成龙望女成凤，总会有子女叛逆，也总会有父母与子母和解（理解），我家也差不多哦。只不过：My father understood me much more than my mother did when I was young.
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In your parent-child relationship, do you find anything in common with those in the movie Joy Luck Club?
In your parent-child relationship, do you find anything in common with those in the movie Joy Luck Club?
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In my parent-child relationship, I see some similarities with those in the Joy Luck Club, especially with Lindo and Waverly. Lindo wanted Waverly to be perfect, outstanding and humble. So did my parents. Waverly wanted freedom, independence and equality. Me too. But we still have our differences. Because my parents and I are relatively less extreme than them. While they want me to be outstanding, they don't force me to do anything against my will. In return, I respect them and listen to their advice. In my opinion, this is a healthy parent-child relationship.
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In my parent-child relationship, there exist something similar with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. Sometimes my parents are so worried about that I'd follow their wrong footstep that we may fall into quarrels. And since my parents and I belong to two generations, we exactly hold different views about something, which we cannot compromise with each. But still, we can understand each other.
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In my parent-child relationship, the things happen in the movie also happened in our family relationship. My parents still hold the idea which is proper in their age but improper in a new age. They try to persuade me to choose a future which seems bright, but I want to persist the life which I like. Because of the generation gap, they can not accept my opinion, I didn't experience their struggles so it's hard for me to understand theirs. The dilemma often leads to an awkward atmosphere in my family. Luckily, we are not stubborn people, after many times of conflicts, one of us will compromise with the others.
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In my parent-child relationship, there exist many things similar with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. Many pains or experiences, parents may not tell us, but choose to bear themselves. Just like Jun's mother, there is a pain in abandoning her daughter. But it was not until her death that her husband informed Jun. It also reminds me of my parents, who actually have a lot of things hidden in their hearts, and because they think about us, they don't choose to tell them. But in the film, the starting point of the four mothers was to love their daughters. They did't want their daughters to repeat their mistakes. My mother taught me independence. She taught me to learn to see my own worth. She really understands and respects me, not just put expectations on me and want me to live like her.
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Sure. I had found there are lots of things in common in my parent-child relationship with those in the movie JOY LUCK CLUB. Such as what 吴素云 told her daughter: Only the obedient daughter can live in the house. My mother had told the same to me several times in the past. And of course, I was angry for this just like 吴箐妹. I only want to be myself. Even though I was not sure yet who I am at that time. But if you would leave me only because I am not your perfect daughter, then you're not a good mother either. In the past years, we fought a lot as a result of such a kind of conflict. But as time went by, I felt both of us had grown up. My mother doesn't want to control or push me anymore. And I have learned to understand her, and even sometimes I would more willing to ask for her ideas or suggestions. So I think maybe the time will solve evrything.
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Sure. I had found there are lots of things in common in my parent-child relationship with those in the movie JOY LUCK CLUB. Such as what 吴素云 told her daughter: Only the obedient daughter can live in the house. My mother had told the same to me several times in the past. And of course, I was angry for this just like 吴箐妹. I only want to be myself. Even though I was not sure yet who I am at that time. But if you would leave me only because I am not your perfect daughter, then you're not a good mother either. In the past years, we fought a lot as a result of such a kind of conflict. But as time went by, I felt both of us had grown up. My mother doesn't want to control or push me anymore. And I have learned to understand her, and even sometimes I would more willing to ask for her ideas or suggestions. So I think maybe the time will solve evrything.
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Actually, I indeed find something in common between the parent-child relationships in the movie Joy Luck club and my own. On the one hand, they have been trying their best to avoid the mistakes they made during young ages happening on me. But sometimes my parents are so considerate that they deprive me of the opportunity to try out something for myself. On the other hand, my parents, especially my mum, is used to imposing her standards on my chioces, just like Mother Lindo in the movie, unsatisfied with my decisons.
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In my parent-child relationship, there exist many things similar with those in the movie Joy Luck Club. As parents, it is inevitable that they want their daughters to be successful and their children to be successful, and they tend to impose their own ideas on their children. They ask their children what they think is right, but they do not realize that times have changed, and what they think is right is not necessarily right now. What's more, children also have their own ideas, this is their own life, children do not want their parents always arrange their life.
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There is something in my parent-child relationship that is similar to the movie Joy Luck Club. My mother pays more attention to my future career that she would prefer me to have a stable job and be close to home. However, I may pursue more interest. In my conversations with my mother, she is able to accept and understand my ideas. Luckily, my parents are very open-minded. More often, my mother and I are more like sisters.
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There are four mother-daughter pairs in the film, and the relationship between them is complicated and subtle. Sometimes the daughter cling to her mother's care but meanwhile resists her strength. The daughter longs to be free of her mother's control but meanwhile unconsciously regards her mother's attitude as the criterion for judging her. No matter what their relationship might be, the mothers are always there to help her daughters when they need it most. They will guide their daughter to the right path. In my parent-child relationship, there are similarities with those in the movie Joy Luck Club? In some ways, I have the same thoughts like Waverly and June. Although my mother was not as aggressive as Auntie Lindo and Auntie Su Yuan and she had never make demands on me, I had the same mentality as Waverly and June: I wanted to make my mother happy and I’m eager to fulfill her expectations, although she did not say so. Although I don't always act according to my mother's preferences and ideas, I do try to make her happy sometimes.
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In my parent-child relationship, there are some similarities with those in the movie Joy Luck Club, especially with the mother and daughter named Lindo and Waverly. Lindo imposes her dream on her daughter regardless of Waverly's willingness. Just like each mother, including my mom, Lindo hopes that her daughter will grow as a remarkable and independent person. Hence, she's been very strict and cautious about her daughter's upbringing.
But there is no denying that Lindo has devoted much effort to the growth of her daughter. So do my mom. To be honest, although my mom places great expectation in me, she won't push me too hard or force me to do anything I dislike. I feel so grateful to have such a strict but considerate parent. -
In reality, my parent-child relationship resonates a lot with that of Waverly Jong’s. Trials... Errors... Disappointment. I always find myself failing to keep up with my parents’ expectations and, as a consequence, often distort my own reality.
Indeed, my authoritarian parents, as they can be portrayed, are stringent and stern with me and their parenting style is not quite flexible. They generally rely on time-outs to maintain obedience, while there is rarely any room left for open communication between my parents and me.
From where I stand, I can truly empathize with my parents that they just want their dear little daughter to win the cut-throat competition and lead a successful life. And they might even see the right way for them to do so, but it doesn’t mean that I will have the same opinion and choose the same choice. I often fear failing my parents and feel unable to live up to their unrealistic demands, hence, my parent-child relationship might get affected.
Whereas, there must exist a resolution. Truly listening to each other may be the perfect way to make both me and my parents open up about our inner thoughts and feelings. In addition, parent-child conflict therapy could also be a sound alternative if my parents feel that they don’t have enough competence and knowledge to deal with some of my behavioral problems.
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In reality, my parent-child relationship resonates a lot with that of Waverly Jong’s. Trials... Errors... Disappointment. I always find myself failing to keep up with my parents’ expectations and, as a consequence, often distort my own reality.
Indeed, my authoritarian parents, as they can be portrayed, are stringent and stern with me and their parenting style is not quite flexible. They generally rely on time-outs to maintain obedience, while there is rarely any room left for open communication between my parents and me.
From where I stand, I can truly empathize with my parents that they just want their dear little daughter to win the cut-throat competition and lead a successful life. And they might even see the right way for them to do so, but it doesn’t mean that I will have the same opinion and choose the same choice. I often fear failing my parents and feel unable to live up to their unrealistic demands, hence, my parent-child relationship might get affected.
Whereas, there must exist a resolution. Truly listening to each other may be the perfect way to make both me and my parents open up about our inner thoughts and feelings. In addition, parent-child conflict therapy could also be a sound alternative if my parents feel that they don’t have enough competence and knowledge to deal with some of my behavioral problems.
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In reality, my parent-child relationship resonates a lot with that of Waverly Jong’s. Trials... Errors... Disappointment. I always find myself failing to keep up with my parents’ expectations and, as a consequence, often distort my own reality.
Indeed, my authoritarian parents, as they can be portrayed, are stringent and stern with me and their parenting style is not quite flexible. They generally rely on time-outs to maintain obedience, while there is rarely any room left for open communication between my parents and me.
From where I stand, I can truly empathize with my parents that they just want their dear little daughter to win the cut-throat competition and lead a successful life. And they might even see the right way for them to do so, but it doesn’t mean that I will have the same opinion and choose the same choice. I often fear failing my parents and feel unable to live up to their unrealistic demands, hence, my parent-child relationship might get affected.
Whereas, there must exist a resolution. Truly listening to each other may be the perfect way to make both me and my parents open up about our inner thoughts and feelings. In addition, parent-child conflict therapy could also be a sound alternative if my parents feel that they don’t have enough competence and knowledge to deal with some of my behavioral problems.
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There is indeed something common between my parent-child relationship and the movie Joy Luck Club.
First,Just like June’s mother,almost every mother has expectations for their children,which are out of love.I think this kind of mentality is understandable,but meanwhile,they need to respect their kids and regard them as individuals.My mother also had some beautiful expectations for me when I was a little girl.But as I became older,my mother began to respect my own interest and encourage me to discover my own worth.Expectations from parents should become the power of love,not the rigid control.
Second,Waverly’s mother was a typical Chinese parent,who was a little bit strict and seldom praised her daughter.She never expressed herself and her love.I think it doesn’t mean that she didn’t love Waverly,but she could be more gentle and more willing to appreciate her daughter.My mother seldom expresses her love verbally to me too,but everything she did says she loves me.Although she won’t praise me frequently,she will give me a smile or an approving look when I do something meaningful.
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Frankly speaking, I can find something in common in my child-parent relationship. Just like waverly and her mom lindo, my mother also wanted me to behave well and become anoutstanding person no matter in my study or social situation. But my mom does not push me and force me to purse perfection. She just encourages me to try my best and won't be regret anymore.
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In my parent-child relationship, there exist something similar with those in the movie Joy Luck Club.
As a Chinese saying goes, "Hope your children will have a bright ffuture." Parents who don't want their children to follow the same path may choose to be strict and have high expectations for children at an early age.
My parents are no exception, they are very demanding of me, they hope that I can stand out and not lag behind others in every place. Of course this is difficult. In fact, this is the mentality of many Chinese parents and a reflection of Chinese culture.
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When I was young, my parents imposed their ideas on me just like the parents in the movie. I just studied quietly and tried to live according to their requirements. But as I grew up, both my parents and I learned to communicate with each other, which helped us avoid many misunderstandings. They are now very respectful of my ideas and choices.
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The parent-child relationship in the film Joy Luck Club reminds me of my relationship with my mom. Similar to Ying-ying St.Cair, my mom respect me very much and always encourages me to be independent and brave, which assists me to speak up for myself. Besides, whenever I meet problems, she will come to help me unconditionally. Although sometimes the way she expresses love to me is unreasonable, I keep in mind that I should understand her and be grateful for her assistance.
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In my parent-child relationship, I find something in common with these in the movie. Like the parents in the movie, my parents sometimes acquiesced in the existence of some rules and did not communicate with me. So there will be some misunderstandings between us. I thought they would want me to be better and get better grades, but also good at communication and emotional intelligence, so I was anxious that I could not achieve this goal. But they thought I was anxious because I set high standards for myself, so they did not try to enlighten me. It was not until I had setback in high school that we started communicating about these things. So I do not have that pressure anymore.
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In fact, the film mainly discusses the relationship between mothers and daughters. In addition to Lina and Yingying, the remaining three pairs of mother and daughter have a lot of conflicts. The mothers want their daughters to become talents. Sometimes the method is too extreme. Daughters want to rely on their mother's strength and resist their mother at the same time, but they also want to be recognized by their mother. To some extent, my relationship with my mother is not the same as the relationship between daughters and mothers in the film. Because I have been studying in boarding school since I was very young, I spent less time with my mother. Only in winter and summer vacation can I have a lot of time with my mother. So most of the time, we have no contradiction. And my mother didn't ask me to be excellent like the mothers in the film, and I didn't have to rely on her strength and get her recognition. Of course, it doesn't mean that there is no conflict between me and my mother. Because we don't live together, there will be a lot of conflicts in our living habits. In addition, my character is a bit like Lina, with a trace of weakness. But my mother is not a strong person, nor can she teach me how to be strong. But she is a very reasonable person, and I have inherited many of her views on life. Then I draw strength from other places and grow into an adult.
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I think the parent-child relationship in this movie has many similarities with most Chinese families, so it is easy to find common ground in my parent-child relationship.
For example, Lindo and Waverly in the movie are both in love with each other, but they have misunderstandings due to lack of communication. Ever since Waverly protested as a child, Lindo has always believed that her daughter despised her. She was afraid to embarrass Waverly. However, Waverly never felt she was doing enough to satisfy her mother. Finally, when the conflict broke out, they really understood each other's ideas and reached a reconciliation.
In fact, my parents are very open-minded. They do not require me to be perfect in all aspects and basically respect my ideas. However, we still have misunderstandings and even quarrel due to lack of communication. I think this is a common problem in Chinese families. Parents are not willing to express themselves, while children cannot understand their parents' care. We are not willing to admit our mistakes, resulting in many problems.
So I think communication is very important in parent-child relationship and a lot of times, it's the best way to solve problems.
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When it comes to the similarities between the parent-child relationships in the movie and mine, I first think of Waverly and her mother Lindo.
When Waverly disobeyed her mother's wishes or annoyed her mother, instead of having a fierce quarrel, Lindo chose to adopt a kind of "silence strategy." I'm not sure whether this the wisdom of mothers all over the world, but my mother often do the same, when I lose my temper irrationally.
Besides, just as what Waverly did, when I was young, I quited lots of interest classes and later regretted doing that. But my mom chose to respect my own attitude, even she knew it was wrong somtimes. I had confused about her tolerance, and mom once told me that she thought it was more important to be an independent and brave girl to assume my own mistakes.
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To be honest, there are many similarities between my parent-child relationship and the parent-child relationship in Joy Luck Club. My relationship with my mother is especially similar to that between June and Suyan.
For example, my mother also has high expectations of me. She always hopes that I can perform excellently in every aspect of my life, such as getting high scores in my exams. However, when I cannot live up to her expectations, it will make me feel like a real loser. So I often have quarrels with my mom because I feel that her expectations are heavy burdens on me while my mom thinks that she only hopes for the best for me and it is no wrong to hope. Anyway, when I grow older, I gradually learn to communicate with my mother and understand the way she loves me is giving her best-cherished hope to me. So I think June and her mom also need commution inorder not to misunderstand each other's love.
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I can see my parent-child relationship in the movie. Just as Lin-Duo had high expectations for her daughter, forcing her to learn chess and bragging about her daughter to everyone she met, my family had high expectations for me. They often tell me that I have to study hard to make my hard-working parents feel that their efforts for me are worth it. So I have "bad study may sorry parents"concept. Especially in the exam, I was always afraid that I would let my parents down if I didn't get good grades. Holding such a burden in my heart, the results often backfired. I was more afraid of facing my parents' anger than of getting bad grades. I deeply know that their educational ideas and methods are wrong. But I'm still in the shadow of this fear. I tried to communicate with them, to get them to accept me for who I am, but I failed. I can only tell myself: in the future, when I educate my child, let him know three facts—— He is an independent individual. Learn for himself. There is no need to feel indebted to parents, just need to do what you should do.
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After watching the movie Joy Luck Club and calmly reflected on some plots, it aroused me a sense of loss and made me feel touched. I was upset by several failed marriages and had sympathy for mothers' early misfortune. These unfortunate experiences prompt mothers to instruct their daughter in case of recommiting the same error. In the process, I found something in common in my parent-child relationship, especially the relationship between mother Lindo and daughter Walerly.
When I was young, my mother was stubborn as Walverly's mom Lindo. We always waited for the other to apologize first when we argued, and she could even pretend to ignore me and make me feel embarrassed. My mother displayed her authority the same as Lindo. In spite of this, I seldom displayed humble and compromised the same as Walverly, the point and we are probably a little dissimilar.
Apart from this, in terms of marriage, my mother also tried to teach me her own life experience. My mother has been in a weak position in marriage and she is inconfident in her educational background. The reason for this is that reality forced my mom to give up an amount of precious things for her youth, loss of the right to education included. She has always instilled in me the notion that females must be independent in all aspects, no matter in economic or spiritual aspects, and there is nobody who could be reliable forever.
Moreover, my mother emphasizes the importance of the choice of marriage for females. In spite of disagreement with her some pedantic ideas even aroused arguments, I understood that her original intention was a tendency to me. Compared with my father, who attaches more importance to my achievement and success, my mother pays more attention to whether I am happy every day and takes great care of my daily life. And when I really and profoundly felt her love, it was recent years.
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There are a lot of things in my parent-child relationship that are similar to the Joy Luck Club. For example, my parents also have high expectations for me, which puts a lot of pressure on me, and we often fight. But we are willing to make some concessions for each other, despite the difficulties,but we are trying to repair the relationship.
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There are a lot of things in my parent-child relationship that are similar to the Joy Luck Club. For example, my parents also have high expectations for me, which puts a lot of pressure on me, and we often fight. But we are willing to make some concessions for each other, despite the difficulties,but we are trying to repair the relationship.
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Yes, there are many similarities.
When I was young, my mother thought that girls needed a perfect body and a dignified appearance, so she sent me to learn Latin dance. But I don't like sports very much. Every time I practice dancing, I feel very painful. And then I tried to negotiate with my mom that I didn't want to learn dance, but she always had a way of getting me to compromise and go to class. She would say to me, "Do you know how much a class costs? If you don't take it, you're failing me."
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