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(U3讨论)你和父母有代沟吗?如何缩小代沟?

By 胡盼 老师 2022-03-29 3239次浏览

Is there any generation gap between you and your parents? What do you think can be done to bridge the gap? 

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  • 23袁雪 2022-03-29

    Yes, there is some generation gap between me and my parents. For my mum, she can't understand my persuit  because she holds the belief that women needn't be too progressive and her daughter should choose a peaceful life. For my father, he considers me to be a silly, stubborn, and immature girl, who must always show respect for him. So he ignores my personality and dignity. The things I think can bridge the gap is to look things from other aspects and try to understand the limition of our parents. What's more, the parents are supposed to respect their childern, their pursuit and their personality. Last but not least, the importance of communication can't be emphasized. Communication can help bridge the gap because it helps parents know their kids significantly.

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  • 孤单地固氮 2022-03-30

    Yes, there is. Although my parents try to understand me in some cases, we still have generation gap between us since our living environments and  periods are extremely different. They often consider everything from their angles as adults when we chat with each other. As a result, I usually find us not on the same topic when I want to share some fun things but they are trying to teach me some truths. What's more, they don't understand my thought as a student while I am complaining something to them.

    However, I think there are some methods to reduce the generation gap even though it is impossible to remove it. For children, we should communicate with our parents more frequently and positively and change ideas with each other in order to understand the other better. Moreover, we can also help them do housework to identify with them and understand how tired they are every day. For parents, in my opinion they should put themselves in our shoes so that it will be easier for them to communicate with us more equally from then on. Last but not least, they should keep on learning to keep pace with the times so that they can communicate with us better.

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  • 忧郁河上的桥 2022-03-30

    Yes, there is. There is a typical discrepancy that my parents are so strict in their daily payment that they seldom spend money on entertainment, however, it's really a daunting challenge for me to restrain from buying what I eagerly wanted.

    They just respond to me absent-mindedly when I suggest them not oversave. Meanwhile, sometimes when I make a decision connected with money, they eternally nag me to be careful, which makes me discomfortable to feel not independent.

    In order to alleviate the situation of  gap generation, we'd better learn to stand on each other's shoes and take our difference into consideration with tolerance moderately and seriously instead of sticking to the original stance intransigently which is likely to deep the gap generation.  Actually, gap generation is inevitable because we and our parents grow in thoroughly different environment. As a result, bridging the gap can't be achieved in a short time. It's essential to be patient and open your mind.

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  • 喃喃 2022-04-01

    Of course I have. The attitudes and ideas my parents have towards life are often deemed as conventional and out-dated by me, while sometimes my behaviors and thoughts are also criticized by them. For instance, I always consider that it is what I love that deserves my time and efforts. In my parents' eyes, however, the subjects and things which can ensure your future is something I should spend my time on. 

    I think it is quite normal and inevitable that generation gap exist between my parents and I, and there is no need to deliberately bridge the gap, since I don't have the right to transform their idea and attitude and nor do they. But that doesn't mean that a timely and proper conmmucation isn't essential, though which we can better understand and care each other. Also, generation gap is not the whole part of our life and relationship. My parents and I still own a large part of similarity: we have the silimiar appearance, the similiar habits, and the similiar hobbies. 

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  • 古月 2022-04-01

    I have a generation gap with my parents. On how to narrow the generation gap, I think we should firstly open our hearts and be willing to communicate with our parents. Secondly, we should discuss more problems in study and life with our parents. Finally, we should understand and trust each other.

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  • 09210127杨双宁 2022-04-01

    Yes.The generation gap between my parents and me is given by The Times, because people's cognition is constantly updated with the development of The Times. We were born in the era of rapid development of science and technology. We have been exposed to new things through electronic products since birth. We see more and understand more, and our ideology has also changed subtly. Parents may be conservative about one thing but they have the experience to at least ensure that they are doing the least amount of damage.The best way to solve the generation gap is to communicate. Of course, remember to calm down after the conversation, learn to understand and tolerate. When appropriate, take your parents to new things and broaden their horizons. As children, also need to learn to adopt parents' opinions, after all, the original intention of parents is to protect us.

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  • 01210230 2022-04-01

    Yes, without a doubt, we grew up in distinct environments. To be honest, most of the time, I don't think the generation gap can be narrowed, after all, it involves our three views. If I can't agree with them, naturally won't be willing to obey. They can't change their hard-wired values as well. But actually, there isn't much conflict between us. I think the most vital point is compromise and respect. Maximally approaching their demands and keeping disapproval in check when they say something you disagree with. Besides, a little bit of trust is crucial, sometimes a war outbreak when they think your actions are not advisable enough. What needed to do is convince them that you are making the most suitable choice for your own. 

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  • 一只小施叽 2022-04-01

    Yes, there is. My parents and I lived in different times, our living conditions were different, our social environment was different, so do our life experiences. So it is absolutely that I have different views of the world from my parents. Besides that, the rapid development of science and technology results in network terminology emerges in an endless stream, which also exacerbated the generation gap between my parents and me.
     In my point, one of the most important ways is communication.  Giving my parents enough patience to communicate, when we have some disagreements, I'll keep calm and andexpress myself clearly. And my parents always show their respects to my choice. So when you argue with your parents,  don't escape, just communicate with them to solve it together.
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  • 06210537董琪 2022-04-01

    Yes, as long as there are two persons who differ in age by more than three years, the generation gap always exists. As far as I am concerned, the generation gap between my parents and me  mainly in two aspects. Firstly, like most of the young generation, I often stay up late, which almost a normal thing for us, while my parents usually sleep eal  than me. Secondly, my parents’ thinking style is different from mine owing to the different life experience. The method to bridge the generation gap I think is trying to change the thinking position of each other and understand each other. We should accept our parents’ right advice.

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  • 04210125陈煖 2022-04-02

    yes,especially about jobs.my parents have a dream city with the best development in their hearts, where I go to work to be considered the "most promising".And this is not difficult to know, after all, for the elders, "those new careers" I talk about may not understand.Their truth is based on where to work the most honorable and teach me again and again.I think we should try not to  convince them, just explain them in their way ,and say something they like to listen instaed of perfessional  words.

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  • 菲非飞 2022-04-02

    Yes. To solve this problem, I think both parents and children should discuss openly about their childhood and the funny and sad incidents that took place during their young ages. It not only creates bridge but also opens the doors for understanding the lifestyle of each other. Knowing the childhood of each other helps us understand the physiological patterns formed by each other also.Moreover, we should not develop a very high feeling about ourselves. We must understand that we both have our limitations since we are human-beings. We should understand that we both depend upon each other at some point or the other.

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  • 智障天才 2022-04-02

    To be honest,the generation gap literally exists between my parents and I,reflected on  many aspects,like diet,hobbies and wearing.Take diets as an example.My parents insist that health must be the first and most important factor to be considered when it comes to food.They object to unhealthy food strongly,including chips、milky tea and ice cream.Standing in their shoes,I can understand their concerns,but I can’t accept their lifestyle sincerely.From my perspective,except for health,I think happiness is also of great significance.Though unhealthy food may not do good to our body,they truly bring lots of wonderful colors to our life,which can’t not be excluded.

    From my perspective,to narrow the gap,maybe we can try to communicate with them and exclaim our thought in details.Perhaps they will accept our thought and the union will become stronger.We should also consider their advice seriously,which is always of great significance.

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  • 朱清雅 2022-04-02

    Sometimes there are some generation gaps between my parents and me. On one hand, my parents believe that I, as a girl, should get a job which is stable but not necessarily well-paid. On the contrary, I insist being independent and ambitious. On the other hand, they also limit my entertainment especially forbid me to play games. However, playing games is one of the ways to relax after finishing heavy assignments, as well as a way of improving creativity. In my point of view, we might communicate with our parents. What's more, it's more important to work hard to prove our ability so that our parents can be sure about us.

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  • 铃阿欢 2022-04-02

    There is a generation gap between my parents and I. We tend to think something differently. Besides, I can't talk them over when we think differently. Because we will both feel impatient to agrue and then we choose not to talk it more, which eventually brings a gap in the relationship. At the same time, they think I am too difficult to communicate. Then we have a generation gap. In fact, I'm eager to share my ideas with my relatives. To bridge the gap, I think we need  common interests and to communicate frequently, which can let us know more about each other. On the one hand, regular communication can avoid major arguments between us, on the other hand, closer relationships require recognition of hobbies. 81-23

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  • unipus 2022-04-02

    Yes,I have a generation gap with my parents. I think the best way to narrow the generation gap between us and our parents is to communicate. We just need to sit down with our parents and have a good talk, explain the problems clearly, and make reasonable requests to our parents, and they will definitely understand us. In turn, we should understand the difficulties of our parents and help them relieve their stress. Usually we can also recommend more fun things to our parents at the moment to understand each other.

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  • 宋佳俊 2022-04-03

    Yes,there is.My parents and I are different in our perceptions and behaviors.When we talk with each other,we will find that we barely have common topics except study and things of life.They want me to do what they think is true and suitable.We understand each other in our own angles.When I do something I love,they may think I am childish.I also can not understand their behaviors sometimes in our life.I think I can communicate with my parents more often and understand their expection.To them and me,we all should try to understand each other in opposite angles to bridge the gap.

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  • 2022-04-03

           Yes,there was.Since my parents couldn't afford to study when they were young, they struggled very hard and now can't afford an apartment in the city. Therefore, they especially hope that I can study hard to break the shackles of poverty.  In that case, my parents are very strict with my studying attitude. They object to my playing video games, even for a short time. They also didn't want me to have a relationship in college.Although I didn't intend to,  I always felt restricted.

           However,when it comes to dealing with the generation gap, my parents, especially my dad, have been willing to listen to my advice and ideas since I became an adult. They also know that I'm old enough to have a mind of my own. As I gradually understood my parents' good intentions, I gradually stopped playing games and was more willing to listen to my parents' teachings and actively communicate with them. Even if there is a disagreement, we will not quarrel, but calmly find a way to deal with it. So now I hardly feel the generation gap between my parents and me.

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  • 陈铭熙 2022-04-03

    I had some small generation gaps with my parents. I the past, I argued with my parents because of my dream and my hobbies. They sometimes couldn't understand my choice. They have their ideas, and I have my own beauty-appreciation.

    But now we can understand each other through communications.  Times are different. So we all will devote to more innovative things.

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  • 彤管有炜 2022-04-03

    Of course we have gap between our parents.Different choices when confronting crossing roads during our lifetime are cases in point.If we want to bridge the gap,more communication may be a good choice.As far as Ithink,mutual respect and understanding are on the base of sufficient and appropriate comunication.Hence,communication plays an crucial role in bridging the gap.

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  • 拿厨头子 2022-04-03

    My parents have deep gaps between me. For this reason, i often argue with them and sometimes it may worsen to become a terrible quarrel. I have to admit that the gap between us has become a problem bothering me for a long time. When it comes to solving generation gap problems, i believe i must be the last one to answer them. I know that communication counts when we have promblems with our parents. But is must be in right ways.  No strong or bigoted language can be called "communication". That's the only way i know to come over the generation gaps with our parents.

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  • 北22 2022-04-03

    Yes,there is.My parents always try to know about what I need,but they don't learn what I have interest in.They make every endeavor to let me know the fact that they are usually careful with me.But they don't think highly of the generation gap between I and them.Usually,I would keep my mind in the bottom of my heart ,and they don't know how to bridge the gap truly.I hold the view. that  we ought to keep clam and have a chat.I know the fact they have done many things and spent much time to bridge the gap.And they also try to understand my mind.

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  • 北22 2022-04-03

    Yes,there is.My parents always try to know about what I need,but they don't learn what I have interest in.They make every endeavor to let me know the fact that they are usually careful with me.But they don't think highly of the generation gap between I and them.Usually,I would keep my mind in the bottom of my heart ,and they don't know how to bridge the gap truly.I hold the view. that  we ought to keep clam and have a chat.I know the fact they have done many things and spent much time to bridge the gap.And they also try to understand my mind.

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  • Aquarius 2022-04-04

    Yes. As we live in different times with our parents, the way we view the world can be very different. With many life experiences, parents may live in a more practical way, while we tend to live in a more ideal way. From my perspective, we should have conversations frequently, which can help us exchange ideas and know more about each other. What's more, we are supposed to be more tolerant, in order to avoid unnecessary trouble.

     

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  • Snaker 2022-04-04

    Yes. Generation gap is something we can't ignore during our communication with our parents and grandparents. With the rapid development of modern science and technology, we grow up in a surrounding totally different from our parents. I think except from communication, understanding is the best way to solve this gap. Only through understanding can we learn to empathize with each other, and gradually overcome the gap.

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  • 吾归 2022-04-04

    Yes, there is. I think the generation gap with my parents was the most serious in junior high school. At that time, I always wanted to do things according to my own ideas, but my parents at that time would also demand me according to their ideas. I think it's right, but there may be a little problem in their opinion. During that time, I always had conflicts with my parents. That was the time when I thought the biggest difference between my parents and me.
    To narrow the generation gap with parents. I think if you want to eliminate the generation gap with your parents, you can talk to your parents more, say what you think in your heart, tell each other what you think. This will let parents know what we think, and gradually we can close the distance between each other, and we can eliminate the generation gap between each other.

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  • 08210110刘娉婷 2022-04-05

    Yes, there is a generation gap between me and my parents. Parents sometimes can't understand young people's online language, and they can't use the online registration service of some hospitals, but it doesn't matter, does it? Some young people don't understand these things either, do they? Their experience is different from ours, and it is normal for them not to understand what we do. All we have to do is respect, understand and help each other. If parents do not understand something new, we can patiently explain to them, and we can patiently teach them to use. Mutual respect, understanding and help are the best ways to bridge the generation gap.

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  • 鲁余妍 2022-04-05

    Little. My parents always have good communication with me, where they will listen to my feelings, my voice and oppinions. Even though sometimes we have conflicts,  we will stand on each others' sides, comparing positives and negatives of our decisions, and they always respect my dream and persuit. Moreover, if they sense my exhaustion and dismay, they will moderately show care and encouragement. These are my suggestions to solve the gap.

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  • 81_18 2022-04-05

    Yes, there is certainly a generation gap between my parents and me. However, my parents are very respectful and they let me make my own decisions while they simply offer advice and help. Of course, if I can't work it out, that's a different story. In fact, I am very willing to communicate with my parents because I feel they have more experience and know more.

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  • Masquerade 2022-04-07

    Yes.We sometimes quarrel with something i think is unimportant.At first ,i think they didn't respect me and let me do what they want me to do .However, i  know they are worrying about me now.There is no denying that good attitude can bridge the gap. We need to place ourselves in their position and only in this way can we understand. All in all, we need to remember that whatever happen, our parents will always love us.

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