Suicide is the worst kind of all solutions, and it is a pity that Neil chose the way to resolve the conflict between dream and reality. A dream, something necessary for everyone to bear, which is also like a seed buried in our heart. The dream in accordance with reality will promote the growth of the seed, while the dream inconsistent with reality could choke the growth of the seed. But actually, it is the latter case that we more commonly encounter.
At a crossroad, we should make a foreseeable judgement based on current comprehensive conditions. Are you able to change reality into the dream through current abilities within a limited time? If you could, you should spare no effort to try it. Instead, you should consider adjusting your dream and focus more on the development of reality. However, that's not equal to giving up your dream but squeezing extra time to strive it. In this way, not only could you feel regretful giving up your dream, but also you could have the ability to seize opportunities at the right time.
If I were Neil, I might temporarily accept reality under the condition that I couldn't disobey my father's command. I could gradually form psychological identification of my father's suggestion and strive for the best result with resolution. If I still bear my dream at that time, I could follow my heart to regain it. I could be lucky enough if I could achieve it, but if not, maybe I could treat the dream as well as a regret as a precious memory to bury in my heart.
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If you were Neil, how would you resolve the conflict between dream and reality? (Dead Poets Society)
If you were Neil, how would you resolve the conflict between dream and reality?
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If I were Neil, I would never choose committing suicide as a way to solve the conflict between dreams and reality.
First of all, it is crucial to find the cause of the conflict，which was that his parents wanted him to go to medical school instead of acting. So if I were Neil, I would seriously communicate with my parents and tell them how passionate I am about acting and how my life would be like a pool of stagnant water if I left acting, so that they could really feel the pain if I couldn't hold on to my dream. Secondly, I will also try my best to keep a balance between my dream and reality, and use my spare time to chase my dream while ensuring a great academic performance.
If I had to make a choice between my dreams and reality, I would choose to pursue the dreams I love, and I would show my determination to my parents rather than compromise with reality in an extreme way like commiting suicide. -
If I were Neil, first of all, I would never commit suicide like he did. He rebelled against his father at the cost of his life, but as a result, he completely lost the right to pursue his dream. Life for a person is more important than anything.If life is lost, all is lost. I would first sit down with my father and have a good talk, show him that I sincerely pursue my dream, and hope that he can understand me. If we couldn't agree, I would fight, I would tell my father I wouldn't give in to reality. Even if I encounter difficulties, I will never give up my life.
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If I were him, firstly, I would not commit suicide. Because once I die, everything will be hopeless. Secondly, I will try to communicate with my father twice. If the second time still doesn't change my father's tough attitude, I will shelve the communication plan for the time being. After a while, I will exchange my ideas and plans with him again.
In this process, it is worth noting that I do not expect to reverse my father's ideas in a short time. The purpose of my first communication is to let him clearly know my real life ideal as an individual rather than their appendage. If he doesn't show respect for me after the first communication, I will write a long letter to my parents for the second communication. I will write in tears. Between the lines, I may reveal my love for drama and my gratitude for my parents' upbringing, and appropriately show the contradiction and pain when my personal ideal conflicts with my parents' expectations. It's better to talk about that I once decided to give up my dream for the expectation of my parents. In short, I must let my parents feel my love for them and not let them see me as an enemy.
Next, my plan will be divided in categories. If my parents waver, or one of them wavers, I will communicate for the third time. This communication is mainly to show my firmness to my dream, let my parents see my growth and reason, making them realize that my pursuit of drama dream is not a whim, but a thoughtful idea. And then I may show them my plan for the future of my life, the more detailed, the better.
Of course, if there is no change in their attitude after the second communication, I will give up the communication and follow their expectations to go to medical school. In the process of obedience, I will completely hide my thoughts in front of my parents. When I can work and have certain economic capability, I will pursue my dream of drama.
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If I were Neil, I would communicate with my father first. I would tell him my thoughts even if he didn't want to listen or couldn't accept it. I would tell him this time I must act in the play but I would stop acting later. Then I would think carefully the results of different choices and rethink my father's words.
I think I would choose the more realistic option and try to find meaning and happiness in that kind of life. Maybe that dream is just a dream, I can live a good life which I have not thought of before. Maybe I will still try to chase that dream in the future. And the moment I have the ability to take responsibility for my dream, that is when I start to pursue it.
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I would first try to convince my mother to understand my dream, and then ask my mother to persuade my father.
If my mother had been as stubborn as my father, I would have obeyed their decision first, finished school and developed my ability to pursue my dreams at the same time. Finally, when I felt confident enough to make a difference, I would tell them and ask them to give me some time to prove myself.
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Faced with the contradiction between reality and dream, I won’t surrender to reality. But it doesn't mean that I must have quarrels with my parents in spite of their opposition. I will firstly follow their instructions in my high school period. But once I have passed the ACT I will revolt against them firmly. Because at that time I have had the power and courage to pursue my own dream. -
If I were Neil, I won't give up my life because my father's disapproval. I will firstly accept my father’s decisions and try to communicate with my father twice to make my father understand my dream and entreat my father to allow me to take acting as my hobby, so that I could continue my dream and ease the conflict with my father.
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If I were Neil, I will just think of how far is my dream and the reality. If it isn't far, I will try my best to make my dream realise. If not, I will think about giving up my dream and accept the reality.
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If I were Neil, I would not give up my dream, but I would not commit suicide, too. To end my life is to give up the possibility of the future.
I will seriously consider how to deal with the relationship between dream and reality, make a good plan and then communicate with my parents, convincing them that I will not delay my learning while pursuing my dreams. If they still don't agree, I will try to become good enough to prove with actions that I have the ability to achieve my dream, temporarily giving up my dream in order to pursue it better in the future.
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If I were Neil, I will choose compromise.
I will follow my parents arragements until I graduate in this process, I won't forget my dream, it will exist in my life as my hobby and a way to relax. When I graduate, I will become more mature and reliable, at that time I will tell my parents my pursuit. From parents' perspective, according to the situation that Neil is adolescent, it's not easy for them to know Neil loves drama indeed, cause many teenagers tends to things without consideration. They worry that their son will destroy his future. But when Neil graduates from the school he still loves drama, that means it's his dream which he will persist after consideration.
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I believe that dreams are built on reality. Only when you deal well with your normal duty or work, will your dream get a chance to come true. There is no conflict between dreams and reality. To find the balance between their two is a work which throughtout your life. If I were Neil, I would like to revolt against my father. I will tell him that my world is my life. No one can control my life. Surely you can help me become better, but you must keep in mind that your son is an individual. Is there any big deal for me to become an actor? No! Life is much more full of variety than you think. I can be an actor, but also I can be a doctor at the same time. I just view my life like I am playing a Multithreaded game. Because I believe I have the power to control the shape of my life. But honestly, I should finish my exam first, I think.
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If I were him, I would have a deep conversation with his father first. If father agrees, that's good. If he doesn't agree, I will choose to give in to father's power for the time being. The same time secretly carry out my favorite career. If dad finds out, I will actively admit my "mistake", and then wait and continue my activities until he doesn't note it. When I grow up, I can choose my life freely and escape from home.
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If I were Neil, I would not commit a suicide. No matter which one I give up, I won't give up my life. Neil's father is unusually dominating. I don't think I have the courage to fight agsinst him. So I think I will not talk to father, but to communicate seriously with mother. Although mother is attach to father, she will fight for her only son. This may be the only chance of success.
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I think Neil was a good soul no older than a child, and I feel sorry for his suiside. However, in that case, suicide was not the only choice to regain the control of his life.
As we can see, Neil would not eave dared or had the urge to rebel against his father and audition for the local play. The relationship between father and son was never strong and lacked communication. Mr.Perry had only wanted the best for his son, leading to extremely high expectations and a planned route for the next years of Neil's life.
If I was Neil, firstly, I would choose to mediate with my father. I wouldn't be afraid of his authority and I would express my thoughts bravely. Undoubtly, my father would burst into anger. If my sincerity fails to change his minds, I will use death threats or some extreme means. Whatever, I must fight for myself once.
The contradictions between my father and me are deeply ingrained. If my father can't compromise in the end, in addition to suiside, all I can do is compromise and wait. One day, when I'm fully fledged, then I must reclaim the control of my life.
Maybe one day when I grow up, I will think that my father's idea is right, and I will give in to reality. But who doesn't want to go crazy when they're young?
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If I were Neil, I would think carefully about what my dreams mean to me. Even if I committed suicide, I just retaliated against my parents, and I couldn't realize my dream. Why don't I pursue my dream after I have the ability to make my own decisions about my life? Parents can't be too much of an obstacle by then.
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I think reality is hard to change but that doesn't mean we should give up our dreams because of the reality
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