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If you were Neil, how would you resolve the conflict between dream and reality? (Dead Poets Society)

By 姚望 老师 2022-03-26 2866次浏览

If you were Neil, how would you resolve the conflict between dream and reality?

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  • Ashly 2022-03-26

    Compromise with reality first and wait for the chance to realize my dreams. Never, never ever commit sucide.

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  • 24200119闵梦新 2022-03-30

    Dreams are important, but pursuing them at the expense of reality is not an option. Especially when you're not financially independent and still in school. When the force majeure in reality cannot be overcome, I will first work hard to change and improve my realistic conditions, and then try to realize my dream. When my parents do not support me, I will try to communicate with them and try to get their consent.
     

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  • 24200103毛若彤 2022-03-30

    If I were Neil, I would not commit a suiside. I know that it is impossible to take my dream as a career under the circumatances, so I will learn my courses well and achieve something in my career. But this doesn't mean that I will abandon my dreams. Instead, I will still be crazy about it, and regard it as my life-long interest.  

    Besides, if there exist possibilities that I have a chance to change my career into the one that is my dream, I will seize the chance tightly, and wait for a best realistic condition to take it.

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  • 24200131陈诗嘉 2022-03-30

    If I were Neil, I would try every method to chase my dream.Avioding pressure from the reality can not solve problems, and I would talked to my famliy and face straight with the dilemma. Though they may still disapprove of my ideas, I have showed my determination first. And then I would try my best to become more outstanding to let my parents know I can achieve my goals throgh  my effort, and gradually tranlate their thoughts.

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  • 24200138胡晨蕊 2022-03-30

    If I were Neil, I think I have to choose between drama dream and strict family affection. But no matter which one I give up, I won't give up my life. 

    Perhaps I will first calm down and think about whether acting is my hobby or whether I really have the ability and talent to take it as my future career. If acting will not become my future career, I choose to hide this love in my heart and try it in the future. If I make up my mind to follow this path of art, I will disregard my father's objection. 

    But anyway, I won't commit suicide. Because only when life continues, can wonderful be performed infinitely.

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  • 24200124张函菡 2022-03-30

    If I were Neil, I could do anything except ending up my own life. By contrast, I would resolve the conflict between dream and reality by effective interacting with my father.

    First, I would apologyze for joining the drama perfpormance without telling my parents, which is against my father's command. Then, I must tell my father that it is my responsibility to finish this performance and If I give up the performance I will bring much difficulties to others and the audience. Last, I will try to express my love for frama clearly to my father. I do believe that my father will understand me. On the other hand, I myself should make decisions between my hobbies as my after-class time is actually limited.

    To sum up, the resovation of the conflit needs both my and my father's joint effort.

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  • 24200115李清 2022-03-30

    There's a line in The Catcher in the Rye , "The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one." 

    If I were Neil, I would live for my dream, even in a humble way, rather than choose to die. I think suicide is just a way to escape, which can't solve any problems. Reality is always less than satisfactory, I would choose to accept and face it, but at the same time I will let my mind soar and let my dream burn hot in love, until one day my love and ability are enough to fight against the cage of reality, then I choose to realize it bravely.

    Certainly, I understand that it is difficult to resist the pressure of reality. Therefore, if I were Neil, I would also try to find some ways to relieve the stress, like talking to my friends constantly, or write down my troubles and pressures in poems or articles. Reading more books to relax is also a good choice.  All in all, the most important thing was not to allow myself to be in that bad mood, just keep trying to make my mind stronger.

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  • 24200120汪南 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would not commit a suiside. Dream and freedom are important, but if there is no life, then everything is just wishful thinking. So, I would try to find a balance between the dream and the family. 

    Communication is an important and useful way to resolve conflicts. Lack of  communciation would arouse conflicts between father and son. If I were Neil, I would choose to have a serious talk with my father. I would tell him about my dreams and hobbies and promise him that I would never neglect my studies. He loves me, so I'm sure he'll consider it.

    Besides, I have many friends and Mr.Keating who has been supportive and encouraging. I believe they will help me if I tell them my trouble.

    In a word, if I were Neil,  I would not commit a suiside.On the contrary,  I would try to find a balance between the dream and the family.

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  • 24200148谢闪闪 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would be brave enough to face my dream and reality. I might make some compromises because of the actual situation.  

    However, this does not mean that I will give up my dream. I will study hard at the current stage, improve myself and wait for the opportunity to realize my dream. I believe that as long as I live, I will still work hard for my dream.  I will also try my best to communicate with my parents, strive for their understanding and change their ideas with my practical actions.

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  • 24200102王楠 2022-03-31

    Of course , for everyone having a dream is an important and glorious thing, which gives us the motivation to speed up and keep moving forward. However, the realization of dreams dosen't come easily, having the reality lay before us and break us with the wonderful imagination. 

    For me, a dream is hard to realize as well as to get, so once I have a dream I won't give up unless something uncontrollable happens. I am supposed to adjust myself to the changing environment and make some changes on myself instead of giving up the former dream. Although the reality is cruel, what's more terrible is we are defeated by the difficulties.

    In a brief, I will never give up my dream no matter what happened. What I should do is to try my best to be myself and devote myself to my family, my dream and my country.

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  • 24200102王楠 2022-03-31

    Of course , for everyone having a dream is an important and glorious thing, which gives us the motivation to speed up and keep moving forward. However, the realization of dreams dosen't come easily, having the reality lay before us and break us with the wonderful imagination. 

    For me, a dream is hard to realize as well as to get, so once I have a dream I won't give up unless something uncontrollable happens. I am supposed to adjust myself to the changing environment and make some changes on myself instead of giving up the former dream. Although the reality is cruel, what's more terrible is we are defeated by the difficulties.

    In a brief, I will never give up my dream no matter what happened. What I should do is to try my best to be myself and devote myself to my family, my dream and my country.

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  • 24200150蔡可纯 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would also feel breathless and hopeless for the irreconcilable conflict between dream and reality, but I would not commit a suicide. In my eye, suicide is not a romantic heroism but a kind of escapism. Burying our heads in the sand or even ending up our lives is utterly useless. If I were Neil, I would continue to learn my courses well and make some achievements in my area of expertise. Of course, I would not give up my dream. I know that it needs massive lucky to make a career out of what we love to do. If I can make it, it's my blessedness; If not, it's normality.  I would also constantly try to communicate with my parent about my dream. Accept the truth calmly, persist to my dream and enjoy my own life.

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  • 24200140秦园园 2022-03-31

    I think dream and reality are never in conflict. 

    People often give up their dreams because of the harsh reality. But reality is not a stumbling block which stops us from pursuing our dreams. Reality just reminds us that maybe the present is not the best time to pursue our dreams.

    The harsh reality, especially as a young person, is that we have unlimited time, energy and passion to pursue our dreams, but we don't have the money, opportunities or even family support to support us in doing so. The solution to the conflict between dreams and reality is obvious. Since we can't have enough money, opportunities and family support, let's do it first. After making achievements in their field, some people resolutely give up everything to pursue their original dream, because they know it is time to pursue their dream.

    So, if I were Neil, I would never commit suicide as a way of demonstrating my determination to pursue my dreams. In such an autocratic family environment, I had to obey, because resistance was futile. Now that my father had planned a career as a doctor, I will be committed to it. Father can control me for a while, but he can't control me forever. Therefore, I will become a responsible doctor first, and then consider my dream, after all, there are many examples of actors who become famous later on.

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  • 24200106朱思瑞 2022-03-31

    Neil is indeed an important character portrayed in the film, and through Neil's story of "pursuing dreams and dedicating himself to dreams", he does promote the positive energy of "bravely pursuing dreams".

    But if I were Neil, I'd rather live humbly for dreams than die honorably for dreams. Because to be alive means everything.

    Be kind to ourselves, believe in ourselves, and love ourselves. Except for our own inner voice, everything else is noise. No matter what choice we make, it is not worth mentioning what others say.When dreams and reality are on two paths, I will not hesitate to choose reality. Because dreams are only dreams after all, and reality always has to go on. Only if I can live with ease in reality, I am more likely to have better development in my dream. Dreams cannot go too far without the support of reality. First of all, we must ensure reality, only when we can not worry about reality, and then we can think about how to realize our dreams, in order to do better on the road of chasing dreams and go further in the journey of completing dreams.

    Is my dream still there? Still there. Although I am going through some pain, I am willing to wait. I will survive all pain and my original intention will be eternal.

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  • 03200109曲萌萌 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would deal with the conflict between dream and reality more rationally. The last thing I would do is commit sucide. First of all, I would firmly stick to my dream. Secondly, I would negotiate with my father. I think communication really counts when a conflict occurs. I would tell him how important my dream was to me, and I would promise him that I would be responsible for my future. I would tell him that I would do what he wanted me to do in the future, but  I would still pursue my dream outside of the work. I knew it may be hard for both of us to accept each other's thoughts but I would work for it.

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  • 24200127陆心怡 2022-03-31

    First of all, whether I choose a dream or reality in the end, I will never give up my precious life. Committing suicide is just a useless and irresponsible  way to escape from this important choice and can never solve the conflict between dream and reality.

    Secondly, if I were Neil, I would not give up either of the two, but achieve a relatively perfect balance between the two. I will patiently communicate with my father and tell him that my dream of acting is one of the driving forces for me to live, and my life will become more meaningful because of the existence of dreams. At the same time, I will also work harder to pursue the success of my studies and career and be responsible for my own choice, my future and my family.

    If my father turns me down after the negotiation, I will take his advice and make the best of my present and future life. As soon as I have made enough achievements and  taken full control of my life, I will pick up my dreams with no regrets.

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  • 24200144郭静微 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I might be tolerant first. I would make myself stronger and then dominate my life. Because I believe that as long as a person is strong enough, he can master what he wants. Maybe I won't be so happy now, but life won't always be comfortable forever. I will take this thing as a difficulty in my growth, and then overcome it. And this doesn't mean I will give up my dream. It's just a way for me to realize my dream.

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  • 24200112李宛凝 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I wouldn't have chosen to take my own life. Although suicide is a good way to escape, it can never resolve the conflict. In such a social reality, all I can do is study hard first. At the same time, though it is impossible, I will try my best to persuade my parents patiently. Sometimes it takes a short compromise to get a long freedom. Only when I have enough money and strength can I become more independent. At that time, I will be capable of chasing my dream.

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  • 24200141袁敬雯 2022-03-31

    If I was Neil,I will choose a better way to make a balance between my dream and reality.A fit of depression will not make me commit suicide.

    First of all,if my parents prohibit me from doing I want to do,I won't speak out against them.Because most of the parents are very stubborn and you cannot change their minds just in a few days.So I will obey their order outwardly.

    Second,my dream is valuable so that I won't give it up easily.So I'll insist on doing what I love secretly.Now that my father has promised to give me freedom after I was admitted to a university that he was satisfied with.I will try my best to achieve this goal and then pursue my own dream.

    Last but not least,I think dream and reality can coexist.I may have a job,which I don't like.But I can depend on it to live.Meanwhile,when I finish my work,I can write poems,draw pictures or do anything I want to do.

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  • 24200149虞黄诗睿 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would not commit a suicide.

    In my opinion, death can not deal with the problem. If I were Neil, faced with the contradiction between dream and reality, I would choose to communicate well with my father and I believed that my father could understand me. I would have been brave enough to tell my father I wanted to act, not too cowardly to stand up to him. I would study hard at school to achieve academic achievements, but also would not give up my dream, I would use my spare time to pursue my dream.

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  • 24200123张陆炎 2022-03-31

    If I were him, I wouldn't kill myself. The unbalance between dreams and reality is a common problem that is difficult to solve. I will do what is practical first. When I have enough confidence to pursue my dream, then I find a way to make it happen.

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  • 24200129陈佳怡 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I might be feel hopeless because of my father's disapproval, but I wouldn't commit suicide. From my perspective, suicide won't do any help to solve the problem. Instead, it may be a manifestation of escapism from reality. When there is a conflict between dream and reality, it's time for me to reconsider that where the problems lie and rethink what I would rather do. There must be the gap between reality and dreams. So I prefer to choose the more feasible one among dream and reality. If my parents object to what I want to do, I will choose an appropriate time to communicate with my parents, ask their scruples and show them my determination. I believe that things bound to work out perfectly. Suicide is never desirable.

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  • 24200114李晓蕾 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would not commit a suicide. Though the high pressure of father and the expectations from family make me exhausted, I would try to learn my chemistry well and be the model student in the school as before and enter a great university without giving up my persuit in acting. I don't think it is conflicting to be a doctor as well as an actor. After I successfully be a doctor, father will have no reason to deny my dream of acting, it's just a problem of time.

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  • 24200142顾怡晴 2022-03-31


    If I were Neil, I would communicate seriously with my father.
    I will tell him about my dream and ensure that I will strike a balance between study and my dream of performance.
    If he still insists, I will hide my goals in my heart and bow to the reality temporarily. But it doesn’t mean that I will give up my dream. 
    I will come back to my dream after I grow up and can be independent to get out of my father’s control. After that, I can achieve my dream.
    In a word, if I were Neil, I would not commit suicide.

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  • 24200145黄宇琪 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I would not commit my suicide. Instead, I would try my best to have a deep talk with my father seriously and calmly.

    Dad's disapproval of my dream of becoming an actor alomst ruined my hope, but it also remined me of the importance of my dream. Of course, I am  Father's boys and the hope of the whole family but first I am myself. If I surrendered myself to the reality and the set life path, then there will be no difference between me and a puppet.

    So I would definitely talk with my father, telling him all about my dream, my passion and my love. I would promise that I could achieve the balance between acting and schoolwork. If he refused me and insisted his rigid ideas, then I would hide my dream in my heart temporarily and turn the passion into the getting the adimission of a famous university. Once I had fulfilled Father's requirements, I could be devoted to acting.

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  • 24200118吴淏 2022-03-31

    If I were neil, I would not try to communicate with my father again. Neil has tried countless times to explain to his father to tell his father what he thought, but his father has refused with a strong attitude and told neil that he can only use his own words and follow his words, and never gives Neil any freedom to make decisions. Therefore, I won't try to communicate with my father anymore. When I can't completely leave my father's control, I will choose to pretend to listen to my father's decision and carefully do what I want to do where he can't notice. After I have my own financial resources and living conditions, I can completely work towards my dreams. At this time, my father can no longer force me to do what he wants, and I can pursue my dreams.

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  • 24200132陈洁 2022-03-31

    In my opinion, both dream and reality are very important. We can neither lack dreams nor abandon reality. We need to find a balance between the two. Therefore, if I were Neil, on the one hand, I would obey my father's arrangement and study hard to get into a good university. On the other hand, I will embrace my dream. I will participate in drama performance when I finish my study. Since the father is opposed to extracurricular activities, I will have an in-depth discussion with him. I'll tell him about my real passion for theater and explain to him that the right hobby not only does not interfere  learning, but can even regulate the body and mind to achieve a better state of learning. I understand that my father's decision is well considered and reasonable, so I will promise him that I will do well in my study while performing the drama, hoping to get his support.

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  • 24200121汪美仑 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, I don't think I have the courage to fight against my parents. Instead of choosing to suicide to punish myself and my parents, I might go back to the normal life and continue to study, listen to what the teachers say and give up the acting dream, because that's the safest way to survive. Sometimes we have strong minds to break the rope that the reality tie, but at last we may find that it is really hard to make compromise. Even if I chose to become an actor, there must be many other problems came out in my life which could also be serious or more serious. For me, accepting the reality might be more pragmatic. I would do what my parents say first, but started to chase my dream after entering university if I still like acting. Just as Neil's father said, when Neil entered the college, his father would have no ability to control him. However, I feel lucky that I was not born in such a horribe family. My family are willing to communicate with me and listen to my opinion when we have dichotomy. Problems can often be solved after a disscusion. 

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  • 24200134郑丽敏 2022-03-31

    If I were Neil, when my dream collide with reality, I would choose to compromise with reality partly. This does not mean that I have changed my original mind, but to better stick to my dream in the future.

    Because I am the leading man in the play, I will still act in the play despite my father’s opposition. Then I will follow my father’s instructions and cancel other extracurricular activities to concentrate on college entrance. When I get into college, I will choose the major I am interested in instead of medicine. Likely, when I have free time, I will devote it to my true passion. If my father insists on stopping me, I will resist. I will tell him that even though I am your child, I am an individual. I will not obey you in everything. You have no right to arrange my life.

    Maybe at this point, my father would be very angry. But I am old enough to leave my family and live alone. It would make me sad not to have my parents’ support. However, to meet their expectations, to give up my heart, would be more painful. If they really want me to be happy, they will support my decision.

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  • 24200128陆思琦 2022-04-01

        "Look before you leap."

        If I were Neil, I would think twice before committing suicide or making any momentous decisions.

        In the film Dead Poets Society, Neil Perry attempts to rebel against his father's overprotective and strict morals. In the interest of freeing himself, Neil takes his own life. Whereas, his decision is an example of a journey that is insufficiently revised. This, in turn, results in a negative outcome from poor risk-taking and an incomplete journey. Actually, in everyday life, people make decisions, some of which are intellectual and others to a much lower standard. An intellectual transition is thought through and based on numerous events that bring about a positive outcome, otherwise known as positive risk-taking.

        So, just think about it, isn't it ridiculous to put yourself at stake just for the sake of some visionary and irrational dreams? Is all this worth it? This is where the analysis procedure of positive risk-taking must be taken into consideration. If I were Neil, I would think of the possible consequences of the situation and ask myself if there are any benefits from participating. By contrast, Neil failed to assess these consequences and, as a result, he led himself away from undertaking a profound journey of awakening and self-discovery.

        However, maybe in that scenario, Neil's irrational behavior does not allow him to think about his decisions thoroughly. Hence, it is indispensable that all human beings should consolidate their choices before taking action as it is evident that such behavior will most definitely result in harmful consequences; some of which are fatal.

        Bear in mind that every dream comes true in the manner of deliberate thoughts rather than reckless risk-taking. That is, only through discreet decision-making can we achieve a perfect balance between mellow dreams and harsh reality.

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