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(U6讨论)What is love based on?

By 胡盼 老师 2022-05-14 2225次浏览

What is love based on? Can you pick one or two important factors that constitute true love and tell us why you think so? 

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  • 23袁雪 2022-05-15

    As far as I am concerned, love is based on the trust, understanding, respect and so on. If I must pick two impartant factors which constitute true love, I may choose the understanding and respect. As for the understanding, I have three main points. First of all, it takes a long time for the lovers to understand each other because the true relationship of love needs time to build and manage. What's more, the trust will be created in the process of shaing interests and beliefs which contributes to the understanding. Last but not least, chances are that the understanding may function as tender and loving care for the lovers, which will definitely promote the relationship significantly.  As for the respect, I also have three main points. First and foremost, love is based on reciprocal respect, which is the shared responsibility of each other. What's more, I cannot imagine a relationship based on the unilateral efforts. If so, the person may never be able to value the relationship. Last but not least,  I am afraid that not to say love, it is impossible for us to be comfortable for the lack of due respect. In a nutshell, the factors of understanding and respect are of a necessity for true love.

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  • 02210332胡奕洋 2022-05-16

    Compromising and interunderderstanding.

    The former is the ensurement of lasting bound while the latter is the security for deepened relationship cultivation.

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  • 在路上 2022-05-17

    From my perspective, love is based on preference, trust and understanding, and all of the three factors are indispensible. 

    Preference can always be seen during the period when couples start to fall in love with each other. It means that you are partial to the one you love and concerned about him or her. Knowing that you are special to someone can be a sweet thing, and this can make love more stable instead of being lack of sense of security.

    Trust is the key to making the relationship last longer. Having a relationship full of trust is comfortable. On the contrary, suspicion and doubt can make people tired and even lead to break up. Of course, the one you trust must deserve it.

    Understanding means put yourself in others shoes. This help us prevent friction caused by different angels and thoughts. Only by understanding each other can we get on with each other more harmonious.

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  • 在路上 2022-05-17

    From my perspective, love is based on preference, trust and understanding, and all of the three factors are indispensible. 

    Preference can always be seen during the period when couples start to fall in love with each other. It means that you are partial to the one you love and concerned about him or her. Knowing that you are special to someone can be a sweet thing, and this can make love more stable instead of being lack of sense of security.

    Trust is the key to making the relationship last longer. Having a relationship full of trust is comfortable. On the contrary, suspicion and doubt can make people tired and even lead to break up. Of course, the one you trust must deserve it.

    Understanding means putting yourself in others shoes. This help us prevent friction caused by different angels and thoughts. Only by understanding each other can we get on with each other more harmonious.

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  • 喃喃 2022-05-17

    Love, as an eternal philosophical topic, is based on recognition, respect and independence from my point of view.

    Recognition means to get to know each other, including other's hobbies, habits, characters and so on. Only with fully understanding can a couple feel attracted and relaxed in the relationship.

    Nevertheless, recognition is not the whole part of the love, respect and independence also account for a huge proportion.In a good relationship, neither side will give up improving themselves, nor will they stop chasing their dreams. Instead, one will show respect to the other's dream and try his or her best to support the lover. Through love, they study and grow together, so as to reveal the value and purpose of the love and the life.

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  • 忧郁河上的桥 2022-05-17

    Love is based on trust. Disintegration of relationship always derives from doubt on each other, however,  believing in the person you care a lot firmly can actually make a difference. Taking the worst situation into consideration, even if they really betray you, you may well make them shame on themselves and admit mistakes instead of accepting thier rebellious defense with anger in heart.  

    Besides the trust, tolerant and praise are both in need. We should learn to forgive and try our best to rectify the weakness rather than pouring our endless complaint and criticism out. Encouragement will guide them to the right way. When they make achievements, we also should be lavish in praise and express our sincere congratulations.

    The last but not the least, devotion is crucial to love. The person who wait for the love will never get love. Only if we are willing to devote ourselves, we can earn love back. 

    If let me make a choice, I think trust and devotion count most.

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  • 孤单地固氮 2022-05-19

    From a practical standpoint, love is based on both financial and spiritual factors. Among all the factors, I regard self-improving and understanding as the most significant.

    To begin with, although the production of a relationship have nothing to do with money so that an affair can last for a period without concerning about financial problems, issues in regard to money can't be avoided in marriage which can bond two lovers together for many years.

    Of course, what is more vital than material basis is emotional support. From my perspective, self-improving is often ignored when two peolple fall in love since they always put their effort into being nice to each other but overlook themselves. Obviously, self-improving such as studing hard and doing exercise make lovers more excellent and it will make them admire each other. As we know, admiration lead to loyalty, and loyalty contribute to trust which is strikingly essential in relationships. Moreover, self-improving will enhance their strength so that they can be more confident which would also benefit the relationships because people usually trust confident individuals.

    Except self-improving, understanding is also required since it makes for respect. With understanding, the couple would not only be willing to devote more to and consider more about each other but also forgive each other's shortcomings. Certainly, there are many methods to realize understanding such as accompanying and communicating with each other more often and putting theirselves in the other's shoes.

    Last but not least, the delight of life is vital too which will make the couple joytful every day and enjoy the time of being together.

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  • 一只小施叽 2022-05-19

    In my opinion, love is based on appreciation, respect and trust.

    Because I appreciate him or her, I will be willing to get to know him or her, which produces the bud of love. With our in-depth understanding , we will become aware of each other's weaknesses, which requires us to learn to appreciate their strengths instead of focusing on their weaknesses.

    At the same time, respect is also essential in love. All happiness and wonderful feelings are carried out on the basis of mutual respect, otherwise love will become a fight between two people, and finally shattered.

    In addition, trust is undoubtedly one of the foundations of love. When you love someone, you have to trust him without reservation, which makes two hearts grow closer and love more deeper.

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  • 宋佳俊 2022-05-21

    From my perspective,love is based on two factors:mutual understanding and respect,resonance between both sides.

    To start with,mutual understanding and respect are significant in love.Understanding each other means that both sides in love have the ability to be aware of each other’s difficulties and put themselves in the other person's shoes.Mutual respect make the couple have their independent space,consider each other's ideas and keep the dignity.

    Moreover,resonance,I think, is what makes love last.As time goes on,the novelty of love will wear off.At this moment,the same interest,target and point of each other will make love more stable and stronger.They have emotional resonance and focus on inner beauty more instead of only outer beauty.

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  • 06210537董琪 2022-05-21

    Love is based on mutual liking, consideration, respect and understanding.
    Mutual liking is the foundation of love,because I like you (whether lover, family member, or friend), I love you. Love is a refinement of liking. Love makes liking  more durable and strong.        
    Love requires consideration and care. Love without consideration and care is hypocritical. It is all show and no substance. When you love someone, you always want to care about him or her, andprotect him or her who is in danger. This kind of consideration and care is very obvious in love.
    Love requires mutual respect. Love without respect is paranoid and twisted. For example, with a lover, when love loses  respect,you do not treat the other person as your equal. It is easy for love to become distorted and manipulative. For  relatives and friends, especially when parents lose respect for their children's love, this kind of love will not be accepted by their  children even if it is true love, because they do not feel the due respect. Therefore, respecting each other is one of the  most important ways to maintain true love.
    Love requires understanding each other. As an old saying goes, love can heal, precisely because love is mutual. When you are in trouble and feeling grieved, your loved ones can  listen to you sincerely and give you warmth and encouragement from their hearts, because they fully understand you. So, love can give hope, it can be salvation of the soul.
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  • 赵伊瑞 2022-05-21

    From my perspective,love is based on respect,patience and care.

    There is no doubt that respect is indispensable in love.Ture love should be equal.We can not take it for granted that the people who love us should pave the way for us unconditionally.

    Furthermore,it is obvious that patience constitutes true love.From mothers caring for their babies to sons and daughters caring for the elderly,patience is essential for love.

    Last but not least,no one can deny the improtance of care to express love.If we love someone truly,we will care for him and protect him without reservation.

    In conclusion,respect,patience and care constitute love.

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  • 09210223吴润哲 2022-05-21

    In physiology, love is based on the dopamine and endorphine. The former pushes for the birth of love and the latter ensure the persistence of love. While in the psychology, in my opinion, love is based on the passion and loyalty.

    The passion gives birth to the love. When we want to fall into love, we always need the impulse to pursue for the one we want and the passion we own to the one we love is the inner power for us to say love to our partner. When we fall into love with our partner, it is the loyalty that ensure the constancy of the love since the exclusiveness is one of the feather of love. The loyalty to the partner stabilize the love and derive other emotion such as respect, inter understanding, trust and so on.

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  • In my opinion,love is based on the exchange.Iove is not one-side giving or getting.On the contrary,Iove is bidirectional.
    If one person only gives something to other one on physicial or sychological,then,we can not say they are love each other,but say he is one simp of the other.Also,if one person only get something from another person,though the person giving is willing,even if the one who is getting does not see the person in front as a simp,they still can not be called love.But one person is the other one's parasite.Only if two people exhange something,either physicial or sychological,they can be said love each other.But it does not mean love is a trade.Get a better view,it is like seedtime and harvest.For example,our parents give us materical logistics and the company of spirit,we return them warmth,even though it can not be as weight as parents'giving,we still exchange something to each other.
     

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  • Masquerade 2022-05-21

    From my perspective,love is based on understanding, sharing, and giving.

    Understanding is an important part.Only by putting yourself in the shoes of others can you feel love.When I was a child, I often felt that my parents did not love me enough. Only when I grow up and stand in their position can I realize their good intentions.

    At the same time, sharing is also essential, and a lot of love is conveyed in the process of sharing.Sharing can make us find the small happiness that we ignore, but also let us communicate with friends closer, and maintain our love with friends.

    Last but not least, giving is a manifestation of love.It is precisely because of the feeling of being needed, so we will care, to give love.But it should be noted that love is not a one-way way, whether only pay, or only harvest, and finally the love will disappear.

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  • 铃阿欢 2022-05-21

    Love, as a strong emotion, comes from responsibility and trust. Not all emotions can be love, and love is not limited to one emotion.

    The emotions which are called love that come from responsibility are more selfless. It often just wants to make others better by giving, such as family affection, love for national conditions, love between teachers and students, etc. Under the encouragement of society and the influence of self instinct, this kind of love is more extensive. The other kind of love comes from trust, which, except for kinship, is rarely very high. What's more, the higher the trust value, the greater the feelings of mutual understanding and loyalty.

    Finally, the composition of love is mainly from the heart, so love is reserved. In most cases, love is not easy to export and love is particularly precious.

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  • unipus 2022-05-22

    I think the foundation of love is trust firstly.Only honest and loyal people can make their loved ones trust you. There is also tolerance, everyone  has a lot of shortcomings and deficiencies. When two people have conflicts, tolerance is vital. Allow each other to have a fault, from the psychological to accept him, not to blame. Only mutual tolerance of love, can really get happiness. The most important thing is to have a material basis, which is the basic guarantee to maintain life. The only love without the material basis of the relationship, often do not last. It is worth pursuing and taking care of for a lifetime. Two people with the same view of love will love each other, mutual trust and tolerance will make love last. Of course, love with a material basis is an important factor to get happiness.

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  • 吾归 2022-05-22

    I think love is based on the care and long time together between us. First of all, I think it is only when we begin to know how to care for others that we begin to love someone. All beginnings of love are based on caring, so I think the first key element of love is caring for others. Secondly, I think another key factor of love is long-term relationship. People always say, "There is no love without a reason", and I think this sentence is correct. All our love should be based on a long time together after the test of time, only after a long time together will there be feelings between people, and when these feelings gradually deepen will become love. So a long time together is also an important factor in love.
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  • 落梦 2022-05-22

    I believe that love which based on the money is not real, it is based on dependence and appreciation. Money is only a material requirement, while spiritual is much more important. For example, if you feel happy and relaxed when you talk to someone, that is a good friend. Love is the sublimation of this foundation after spending a long time with a person. The person who gives you reliance and comfort and will never abandon you when you are in trouble is your lover. In addition, there should be points of appreciation for each other. No one is perfect, and all of us have strengths and weaknesses. However, we are the only ones who are clear about which flaws we can accept and which strengths we like. Therefore, love is based on dependence and appreciation, which is a spiritual feeling.

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  • 04210125陈煖 2022-05-22

    How regretful, in this human world: what kind of thing is this so-called love,which makes people cling to it in these crazy times. People always talk about how hard to keep it surviving in the world.It seems that they want something else,instead of the another one. Love is just so many facts based on "you and I".Only by realizng this truth can a person not stop the heart beating. Each one want to love for free .Everybody want something from "me" and "you”just want "me".

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  • 09210127杨双宁 2022-05-22

    As far as I concerned, love is baesd on instinct, responsibility, understanding and acceptance. If sorted, I think the most important thing is responsibility and understanding.

    We are borned with the ability to love one. But when really together, in addition to having a beautiful love, but also to assume the responsibility of life trifles. Love is an active giving and understanding, when we really love someone, we will naturally want to be responsible.So, learning to assume the corresponding responsibilities is one of the important factors that constitute true love.

    It is unavoidable that there will be conflicts in love, and at this time, it is very important to learn to understand each other. Don't because of our own temporary mood to quarrel, respect each other. Only in this way can love develop for a long time.

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  • 09210127杨双宁 2022-05-22

    As far as I concerned, love is baesd on instinct, responsibility, understanding and acceptance. If sorted, I think the most important thing is responsibility and understanding.

    We are borned with the ability to love one. But when really together, in addition to having a beautiful love, but also to assume the responsibility of life trifles. Love is an active giving and understanding, when we really love someone, we will naturally want to be responsible.So, learning to assume the corresponding responsibilities is one of the important factors that constitute true love.

    It is unavoidable that there will be conflicts in love, and at this time, it is very important to learn to understand each other. Don't because of our own temporary mood to quarrel, respect each other. Only in this way can love develop for a long time.

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  • 菲非飞 2022-05-22

    I think love is based on the following three aspects:

    The first one is love. If we love someone, we care about them, their feelings, and their well-being. We may go out of our way to make sure they are okay, and even compromise and sacrifice our needs and wants to give them what they need.

    The second one is admiration. Admiration can be for their physicality or even for their mind and personality. Liking someone for their external and internal self and respecting their thoughts is an essential element of love. 

    The third one is desire. Just wanting to spend more time with someone, being around them, and wanting them – are all parts of the desire you feel when you are in love with someone. 

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  • 08210110刘娉婷 2022-05-22

    Love is a strong and positive emotional state and psychological state. It represents a deep and sincere affection for people or things. Such feelings arise from good relationship between people or connection between people and things, and it can also arise from admiration, compassion, or common interests. In general, love brings warm attraction, enthusiasm and selfless giving. In a broad sense, "love" includes love between husband and wife, friendship, affection, fraternity and so on. Here I talk about the love between husband and wife. In my opinion, responsibility is an important component of true love. A mature person, should be responsible for own life. When two people fall in love, they should be responsible for each other. Taking responsibility for the relationship is very essential. They also need to take responsibility their families. Another important factor is equality. In a good relationship, two people should be equal. If equality is not achieved and only one person unilaterally pays, then the relationship will not last. So, responsibility and equality are two important factors that constitute true love in my view. 

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  • 32文羽昕 2022-05-22

    From where I stand, love is definitely based on passion and responsibility.

    Without passion, love couldn’t be born. Almost everyone dreams of a beautiful love, where they can gain a feeling of happiness, mixed with sweetness, thus a ideal love relationship always begins with passion when attracted to the opposite sex, bringing the people happiness and excitement.

    What’s more, responsibility, a key to keeping love for a longer time, is an inevitable part of love, which can reflected by the amount of time spent on accompanying each in a love relationship and keep faithful to the lover forever. Love can’t be kept fresh with lies and irresponsible actions.

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  • 05211608刘政 2022-05-22

    Well, I would have to say love is based on the difference between two person's views of value and what can be most important in love. And this need two necessary condition. First, the true love must be built up after two persons konw each other good enough. As far as I'm concerned, the true love is definately different from the temporary feeling. If the two person fall in love with each other, in my view, they are supposed to konw the habit of each other.
    Second, the true love must base on peaceful conmmunication and undersatanding of their views.If they can't understand each other in time, many unnecessary complaints maight take up
    Overall, love can't be true without really paying out.

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  • 朱清雅 2022-05-23

    In my opinion,its trust and equality that true is based on. If a couple dont trust each other, they might double from time to time whether the partner love them or not.Whats more, equality is of the same significance. Equal love will not make both the couple inferior and arrogant, so that their life will be harmonious and happy.Equality can also make both families respect each other.

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  • 拿厨头子 2022-05-23

    As far as i'm concerned, love is based on the word "mutual". We all consider that love need "trust" ,"sacrifice","dedication". However, those behavior shoudn't be carried out in a one-way way. We should attach more attention to equality when we examine your love for perfection. In my opinion, only a two-way love is a good love. After all, no one wants to be a lick dog.

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  • 北22 2022-05-23

    From my perspective,love is based on the fact that persons understand each other. Because of understanding,they can depend on each other. Furthermore,they have ability to share their opinions,believe each other. Conclusively,understanding is a significant role in love.
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  • 陈铭熙 2022-05-23

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  • 小王拒绝emo 2022-05-29

    In my opinion,Love, as an instinct, will not be affected by external environment in nature. What will change is the way of expression. The cultural environment can change almost any way of behaving and thinking. For example, many Chinese parents believe that to demand their children according to their own ideals and expectations, and let the children become what they think is good, that is to love them. This compulsive thinking and practice is not love, but rather an act of desire to express one's values

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