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What do you think is the most important thing for the husband and wife in their marriage? (The Joy Luck Club)

By 姚望 老师 2022-03-26 2986次浏览

What do you think is the most important thing for the husband and wife in their marriage?

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  • Ashly 2022-03-26

    I think the most important thing in the marriage is the mutual appreciation and mutual understanding.

     

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  • 24200119闵梦新 2022-03-30

    I think the most important thing is communication. Everyone has their own values and way of life. When two people are married, one of the most important aspects of life to resolve differences is to communicate with each other.
     

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  • 24200131陈诗嘉 2022-03-30

    I think the mutual trust and forgive can be the most important thing. Marriage build on the base of mutual trust and understaning. As you put into the new relationship, you are not alone. Marriage is more like a cooperative game which needs two people's effort.So mutual trust can be the most important thing.

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  • 24200138胡晨蕊 2022-03-30

    I think the most important thing in marriage is tolerance.

    Marriage is not love. It requires husband and wife to tolerate each other's shortcomings and face the ups and downs of life together. If there is no tolerance, always quarreling over trivial things, feelings will be consumed, and the two people are always independent individuals, not husband and wife connected. 

    Of course, there should be a bottom line. We need to make a quick decision on the behavior that violates morality.

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  • 24200115李清 2022-03-30

    I think the most important thing in marriage is loyalty.

    We all know that people are fickle and it's almost impossible to love someone passionately for many years. But when a couple chooses to get married, I think it means they have chosen to take on the responsibilities of marriage. One may meet many loves in one's lifetime and still be tempted by the people and things one likes. But a person, a lifetime in a marriage, loyalty is the most important, it is more important than compromise, forbearance, understanding, tolerance. Loyalty is the bottom line of marriage, which can not tolerate the slightest flaw.

    In The Joy Luck Club, Ying Ying's husband betrayed her, and she was unhappy in her marriage. Eventually she killed her own child in her grief. Her tragedy was linked to her husband's infidelity.

    In short, I think the most important thing in marriage is loyalty, which is the guarantee of a stable marriage.

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  • 24200103毛若彤 2022-03-31

    I think trust and respect among the couple are the most important things in marriage.

    Every person has their own thoughts and personalities. The huspand and the wife though have some commom things but they definitely have something different in their lifestyles, thoughts and other aspects. In their relationship, the huspand and the wife are complete individuals. It is important for them to show trust and respect when the differences come up in their shared life, which measns that they should communicate, understand, tolerant to solve all kinds of conflicts arising from those differences.

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  • 24200129陈佳怡 2022-03-31

    I believe that mutual love and understanding may be the most important thing in the marriage.

    The union between the husband and wife is contingent on mutual love. If anyone of the two people fail to love the other person wholeheartedly, there will exist unequal love among the marriage. As time passes, one side gives much but gets little in return, and then there is no doubt about the coming cracks in this marriage. Hence, if there are mutual love and understanding between the hasband and wife, they will make allowance for each other's hardness and giving, and then they are both willing to make effort to work at the marrige together for the better.

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  • 03200109曲萌萌 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is responsibility. Both husband and wife should have a sense of responsibility for the family. Only with responsibility can a husband and wife take care of each other, raise children, contribute to the family economy, and make each member of the family better off. 

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  • 24200124张函菡 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is assist mutually. When a couple decide to get married, there is deep love between them in most accasions. However, being in marriage means live together with not only love, but also responsibility, difficultties and annoying daily affairs. As a matter of fact, the two people should always help each other whenever and whatever, by which, they can deal with the dilemma with love, understanding and strength.

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  • 24200120汪南 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is frank and honest. Frank and honest are the emotional basis for couples to establish love, as well as the premise of mutual trust and love.

    Marriage is not love, just "I love you, you love me" is enough every day. Marriage is made up of daily chores and daily necessities. When the initial intense love wears off, a marriage can work well only if both parties remain frank and honest about it on a day-to-day basis.

    Without honesty, a marriage will be filled with suspicion and disbelief. When suspicion is rife, marriage is dead in name only.

    So I think the most important thing in marriage is frank and honest.

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  • 24200140秦园园 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing between husband and wife in marriage is to know the right distance. Conflicts and arguments may be an important cause of the breakdown of a marriage. And I think it is the lack of sense of proportion that leads to these conflicts and quarrels. 

    Married people take it for granted that the other is their property, so they barge into each other's territory and even want to know each other's secrets. The wife checks her husband's phone recklessly, trying to find out everything about him. The husband take it for granted that his wife do all the housework, encroaching on her time. Little do they know, despite being married, everyone is an independent personality. When a mother reads the child's diary, the relationship of blood, which is stronger than marriage, is already broken. The same is true of marital relationships.

    Marriage is not love——it is more real than love. Each of us has our own space which cannot be invaded by others. So in order to have a stable and long-term marriage, we need to keep a proper distance.

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  • 24200150蔡可纯 2022-03-31

    I think communication and mutual understanding are the most important thing in the marriage. In the marriage, conflicts and arguments are unavoidable, but these are not all harm and none benefit. Instead, to some extent, argument is a good opportunity for husband and wife to have a deep communication. If we can sit down and have a calm and sensible talk on a regular basis, we'll not accumulate anger and sorrow and wait for the tiny spark to erupt. Genuine communication and mutual understanding are the boats for marriage voyage.

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  • 24200106朱思瑞 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in a marriage is that both husband and wife should trust each other. Nina O'Neill says: Trust is the most important quality that two people share in a marital relationship and is indispensable for building a happy and growing relationship. The word "trust" is easier said than done.

    Marriage can't be too bad when there's no trust in marriage; When there is no trust between husband and wife, they are not far from the enemy. Many times, marriage is built on love, attachment, respect, and trust.

    In fact, trust is not only an attitude, but also an ability. To believe in the other person is to believe in oneself and not to believe in the other half, which is usually a sign of self-confidence. When two people distrust each other in a couple's life, only doubt remains, that is, when the marriage continues to break down. Husband and wife respect each other, trust each other, communicate more, communicate more. Only in this way can the marriage be filled with a harmonious atmosphere, full of happiness.

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  • 24200144郭静微 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing is trust. Mutual trust, no matter when, where and under any circumstances, men and women should trust each other, trust him to do his best on the journey of life, trust each other, never leave you and walk alone, and be confident that they will always have the strength to walk with each other. Trust is the foundation for the continuous consolidation of gender relations.
     

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  • 24200148谢闪闪 2022-03-31

    I think the most important things in marriage are understanding and respect.  Everyone is different and there are bound to be problems between couples, it is important that both partners understand each other to make the marriage better.  

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  • 24200112李宛凝 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is mutual love and trust. It's natural for two people to fall in love and get married. But after their marriage, they will face many new trivial problems, such as different lifestyles. At this point, they need to have enough patience and trust to find a solution that is suitable for each other. Only in this way can they live together for a long time.

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  • 24200127陆心怡 2022-03-31

    In my opinion, the most important thing in marriage is communication. Without communication, it is difficult for couples to perceive each other's love. Without perceiving the existence of love, it is difficult for both sides to spend the long lifetime together. Many people divorce because of lacking communication. During the day, they are busy with heavy work. So they tend to do their own things in their little leisure time, but ignore the emotional communication they need. Communication is conducive to bringing the distance between each other and the stability of the family. It can also help enhance trust and reduce conflict. Therefore, I think communication is the most important thing in marriage.

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  • 24200142顾怡晴 2022-03-31

    I think the most important aspect of marriage is communication. If you can not talk to your spouse, your marriage will have no room for growth. Communication builds trust as well. It is important to maintain a good trusting marriage. Most mаrіtаl рrоblеmѕ саn bе ѕоlvеd thrоugh ореn соmmunісаtіоn, аnd соnvеrѕеlу mаnу whоѕе mаrrіаgеѕ dіѕѕоlvеd blаmеd lасk оf соmmunісаtіоn.

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  • 24200141袁敬雯 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is respect.

    First,we all know that the pursuit of gender equality is our eternal cause,especially in the family.Husband and wife share different kinds of work,but every part of work matters.So,they need to respect each other's giving.

    Next reason is that respect provide a solid foundation for marriage.No matter how intimate they are,they need to respect each other and avoid to do something with no respect.If they begin to disregard each other's opinion and emotion,their relationship will worsen.

    At last,I want to say that love is delicate,which needs to be cared for and nurtured.The marriage will last only if you treat your partner with respect and love.

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  • 24200123张陆炎 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing is sincerity. In marriage, the other party is in addition to his lover, but also relatives. Love is never a game, no one can play. Love a person to pay sincerely, sincerely. If we're all afraid of getting hurt, if we're all masked and guarded, then true love can't get to us. The only way to get true love is to let go of your guard and move with sincerity. Because sincerity is the best stepping-stone to love. In a marriage, honesty is also a good way to solve problems between each other.

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  • 24200149虞黄诗睿 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is to understand each other.
    After two people get married, it is impossible to live a lifetime without quarreling and conflict. At this time, it is necessary for both sides to put themselves in each other's shoes and think about each other's difficulties. This is mutual understanding. Sometimes, this mutual understanding also helps both parties understand each other better and deepen their
    relationship.

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  • 24200114李晓蕾 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is equal giving. As a lover, we can accept the other people's love and giving without     considering everything, we can also give a lot but don't expect anything in rerurn. But in marriage, it is different. Husband and wife are an equal relationship, living together for a long time requires equal love and giving. The effort of not getting a response can make the relationship toutorous.

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  • 24200118吴淏 2022-03-31

    I think the most important thing in marriage is a sense of responsibility. Husband and wife may lose their original passion in the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt day after day. At this time, a sense of responsibility becomes indispensable. The sense of responsibility for marriage makes the two reject the temptation of the outside world, shoulder the burden of creating and maintaining a good family, and help each other.

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  • 24200145黄宇琪 2022-03-31

    I think the most imortant thing in the marriage is effecitive communication. 

    A decision of forming a family means shared responsibilities and open hearts. We have to admit that quarrels or even conflicts are unavoidable. However, cold war mentality is of no use to tackle the problems but hurts kids and worsens the situation. Instead, effective communication is the most significant way to push the husband and wife to speak their own thoughts out honestly and calmly and then figure out the solutions together. Therefore, no matter what terrible accidents happen, both the husband and wife should first calm down and conmunicate with each other effectively.

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  • 24200116李琪 2022-03-31

    From my perspective, the most important thing for the husband and wife in the marriage is expressing their real ideas.

    Some people may regard that expressing their real ideas is embarrassing and let their partners to guess what they think. But in the end their partners often misunderstand them and have quarrel with them. While direct expression of their real ideas can help them communicate effectively and create healthier and better relationships. Meanwhile, they can solve problems on time and avoid conflicts to some extent by virtue of this method.

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  • 24200137胡举璇 2022-03-31

    I think that love and stabilization are the most important things in a marriage. Love is so magical that it could lighten any plain relationships. We don't need to weigh gains and losses with spouse in daily life because of love. We are willing to compromise on a loving marriage. What's more, we are motivated to be more excellent people, which could have the ability to guard one who we love deeply. Marriage couldn't achieve a successful outcome without nothing but love. That's because love is just a subjective sense, which could be consumed quickly by reality. To structure a permanent and harmonious social relationship is one of the goals of marriage. Therefore, stabilization is especially essential and it accumulates trust, habits, understanding in the long run. We believe that our spouse never leaves us with assurance and we also choose firmly our spouse. In fact, marriage is a precious relationship that husband and wife have mutual help and relief in times of poverty.

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  • 24200102王楠 2022-03-31

    Maybe I am the different one, because I think the important thing in marriage is the fair and equal property relations, which sounds like a little bit ridiculous and realistic. However, the love without property is just like a plate of loose sand spreading on blowing soon. 

    But what I want to stress is the importance of stability of husband and wife, which gives the foundation of a steady love. Even the laws only protect the property rights.

    In a brief, caring about the property more is not a useless thing and it may influence the life in the future. 
     

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  • 24200132陈洁 2022-03-31

    I think harmony is the most important thing for a husband and wife in their marriage. Garmony in marriage involves many factors, such as responsibility, tolerance, trust, loyalty, mutual respect and so on. On one hand, good relationships in marriage make marriages last longer. On the other hand, family atmosphere has great influence on children, both mentally and physically. 

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  • 24200132陈洁 2022-03-31

    I think harmony is the most important thing for a husband and wife in a marriage. Good relationships make marriages last longer. A good family atmosphere is good for children's physical and mental health. Harmony in marrige involves many factors, such as responsibility, tolerance, trust, loyalty, mutual respect and so on. In marriage, husband and wife share responsibility for the maintenance of the family. Be loyal and trust each other in daily relationships. Mutual suspicion is often the source of a broken relationship, so mutual trust is essential. In addition, conflict is inevitable, but both sides should be more inclusive. Understanding each other makes the relationship stronger.

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  • 24200121汪美仑 2022-03-31

    I think equality and loyalty are the two most important things in marriage between husband and wife.

    First of all, since I am born in a family that emphasize equality in family relationships, I have to say I am deeply influenced by my parents and grandparents. I can't imagine the life in a relation which is unequal. If a husband or a wife think he or she has a higher level and has priority in the family, conflicts and disharmony might be caused. When one is superior to the other and the other is used to compromise and tolerate, it is likely to become the source of domestic violence.

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